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Moving in with your son/daughter? Q’s to ask them:
Oct 25, 2013

If you're thinking of moving in with your adult son or daughter and their family, here are some questions you should ask:

  • Will I have my own room or space?
  • What household responsibilities will be expected of me?
  • Will I be asked to mind the children and how often?
  • How much will I be expected to contribute to pay for household expenses?
  • What will happen to my home and any finances or savings?
  • Will changes be made to your home to make it safe for me (bath grab rails, etc)?
  • Can I bring my pet with me?
  • Will I have a say in family social decisions such as holidays and weekend activities?
  • Can I entertain friends?
  • What happens if I need extra care?
If, having discussed each of the issues mentioned above, plus anything that might be of concern, you do decide to move in, the most important thing is to set expectations right from the start.  Every family member must understand what is expected and how they fit into the big picture.  They must all be allowed to share their ideas about how the situation might work.

Sensitive Conversations.
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